It was just recently pointed out that my long term girlfriend, Kelly, has grown to be co-dependent upon me. And I don’t mean that the lady is clingy and only desires to spend a great deal of time alongside me, I mean the lady has to do every single thing with me or she won’t actually do anything. I mean that the lady goes out of her way in order to “care for me” even if I don’t need it and this hurts her as well as complicates the woman’s life. She has an actual disorder, co-dependency is a genuine thing. I assume people who are co-dependent are generally people who have got an unhealthy love with regard to another man or woman and then display this love in unsafe ways. I always just applied that as a joking word for clingy, little did I know I would experience the actual thing.
Her co-dependency was first pointed out to me personally by a few of my guy friends, most notably my very best buddy Shane, however i actually blew these guys off. I thought their only men that are lonely as well as jealous that i actually have a partner who loves me as much as this lady does. Then her buddies pointed that out which I considered had been a little odd, these individuals were really concerned about her. But again, I shrugged the idea off. Then the woman’s parents then my mother and father revealed to me personally they thought there was something greater than merely excessive clinginess going on. That’s when I recognized that there a significant problem.
We went to a professional who has specialized in human relationships and marriage. It was there that they informed us that Kelly was in deed co-dependent. She is in love with me to a particular unsafe extreme. She won’t go to the grocery store or perhaps even have any kind of a real meal without me. She won’t see her close friends or loved ones without me. She won’t function correctly without me. Furthermore, the lady leaves work to make me cookies or something and carry these to my work. And even if the lady could get in trouble for this and consequently is always skating on thin ice over at her work, she nevertheless does this just because she really feels she has to take care of me.
This has to change in the event she is to get healthier and consequently if we are actually too last, and currently the situation is, it is certainly not likely that we can last, which truly sucks. The doctor wishes her to carry on coming back for therapy. Her mom and dad wish for her to go to Co-dependency Anonymous. This throws me off. What is co-dependency anonymous? There can’t actually be a co-dependency anonymous just like there is an alcoholic’s anonymous. It’s certainly not that dreadful of a problem. And just what would that entail and also exactly how might it help? Seriously, exactly what is co-dependency anonymous?